Zach is my friends wife’s horrible ex boyfriend. She is still undergoing therapy for the things he had done to her, and others. Zach is about 5′ 11″ with wavy/curly blonde hair. He is an egoist, and a terrible narcissist with dangerous views of the world. Just starting with what he did to her, and moving into his other dangerous workings after; He would constantly keep her in his room at his house while he went about his day so he could be sure she didn’t do anything he didn’t want her to do with no way of her getting home. If she asked for a parent or friend to pick her up, he would call in an angry panic, stating how he felt she was ‘running away from him’ or that ‘she didn’t care at all about how he felt’ even if she had things to do that day. He was not very physically violent to her, but was the type to hurt himself, or if he became injured on his own, to immediately turn and blame her for ‘causing it to happen’ and yelling at her that if he hadn’t said X or done X that he would be uninjured. If she became injured, he would refrain from taking her to seek medical attention, claiming it would ‘make her tougher, because he refused to have a weak woman’, she now has extreme back and neck problems from several injuries that were left untreated due to his control. He would constantly control everything she did and said, to the point his own friends actually became uncomfortable with their relationship, as he once even raped her in front of them in a hotel they were sharing in some weird act of dominance. He actually took her virginity after he gave her a plastic ring, and when she accepted it, he took this as acceptance of marriage, and later that night raped her in her sleep. She wanted to wait until her wedding night and he decided against that because since she ‘accepted his proposal’ he ‘owned her body’ and could do as he liked with it, and even gas-lit her into half-accepting what he did. He knew she was an incredibly heavy sleeper, and he would openly admit to people about doing this because she ‘said it was okay’.
In the end she now has violent night terrors her husband needs to help her down from almost every night. He would constantly berate her weight, hair style, makeup, speech patterns, and even her smile, to the point her self confidence was DANGEROUSLY low, and would not let her seek any sort of therapy because ‘therapy is for the weak’. The list of things he did is very long, and his friends have been leaving him one by one slowly. He actually saw this and began coaxing and threatening certain ones back into hanging out with him, or harassing them because they still refuse to be seen with him, claiming they have been ‘brainwashed’ or that they ‘were never on his side to begin with’ as though they were some kinds of spies in his life. Eventually his girlfriend broke up with him, and he got even worse. He spent the next few months begging for her back, turning into a COMPLETELY different person (but it was obviously an act, no one changes that entirely that quickly), and even got her to agree to online counseling for them, but he didn’t know that the plan between her and the counselor were to ween him off of her, and nothing more. He would claim so many things, including the brainwashing bit, because she was hanging around the guy she is now married to, and he believed wholeheartedly, that this man was the devil himself come up from hell to drag his ex down to the depths with him (the guy is actually super nice, and is the main reason a lot of her trauma isn’t as heavy anymore, we actually all like him.) and was even escorted out of a Fred Meyers once when he dropped to his knees suddenly and started screaming to god to bring his ‘wife’ back to him in a crazy fit of sorts. (i’m still sad there was no real video of it) and would start doing creepy things, like visiting the grave of her grandmother (this was brought up to us by his now Late best friend, who we think Zach may have had something to do with his passing but nothing can be confirmed) and passing by her old place of residence, even hanging outside her grandfathers house just staring at it(also confirmed by his Late best friend a few weeks before his passing) Even two years later from the start of all this, we have found out that he has doubled his efforts to find where his ex and her new husband are now by threatening some of us over the phone. He is also a very prominent drug dealer in Tacoma, but one of his friends confirmed that he does get his stuff off the dark web, and he still sells most of it even when it test positive for fentanyl or other dangerous additives. He frequently goes to festivals like Bass Canyon and peddles his toxic wares there, so avoid buying anything from this man that can be consumed at all.
Most people who knew him have actually started keeping an eye on him, and letting his ex and her husband know what is going on if they think there is a chance they would cross paths. She already had to put a restraining order on him previously when he forced the door of her old place claiming ‘he came in because it was open’ at 8am when she was still sleeping, and made a habit of doing similar at regular intervals, including when he couldn’t get in, he would just sit outside waiting for her. They would prefer this not be the case if he found out where they lived, since she still can’t even see a simple picture of him without screaming and becoming hysterical, so they are doing there best to keep them from crossing paths, since a restraining order can only do so much. Recently it was found he has written a book, disguised as a poor rendition of Twilight with werewolves as the focus instead of vampires, and anyone who knows him and skims the book can tell instantly its just a book where he is still with her, and he defeats the man who married her and they live happily ever after. He also made sure the publishing date, was her birthday. She is also a huge twilight fan so we think his whole ‘garden saga’ bullshit plays on that too. The few of us who still hear from him know he still believes he can get her back, and once drunkenly told a few people if he came across her husband, he would willingly take his life (and also bragged how ‘easy’ it would be). He is extremely unstable, and hides behind his faith, claiming himself a ‘good man’ and ‘god fearing’ and regularly goes out of his way to say holier-than-thou statements in order to try and make himself seem like the bigger man. He was actually found to have spent hours at a music festival, just following his ex around in the crowd while her and her husband and new friends were enjoying themselves. He even tried to get his best friend who was with him to follow them too (but he just informed them that Zach was doing this) His best friend didn’t like his ex, but would do everything he could to keep them separate after the breakup on the grounds that “If I can just keep him away from you, and help him get over you, that will be best for both of us.
Just remember, I’m not doing this cause I like you, you two were terrible together and you drive me crazy, but I care a lot about him and I just want him to get better, and its easier to work with you than him right now.” and kept this attitude for the next few months he would advise us on his rapidly deteriorating mental state. Apparently he was seeing about 3 different therapists for awhile. A few other things he has stood firm on in his life that makes him dangerous: He believes the age of consent is ‘bullshit’ and if a girl is hot enough, no matter the age, he would fuck them. He actually came on really strongly to a friends 13yr old sister who had developed VERY early and already had DD’s. He also did this with one of his Ex’s friends, but luckily wasn’t able to even message her, but told her that he would fuck her as soon as he could. He is a sociopath with animals, he believes all little dogs deserve to be shot dead (even told his Ex that if she ever got a little dog, he would take it out back and shoot it dead no matter what she said, and he owns well over 10 unregistered firearms), once upon a time had a dog of his own, and when it got too old instead of taking it to be euthanized (it was ‘too expensive’ according to him) and instead drove her out to some woods and shot her several times, which he admitted to himself. He is suspected by several people who were involved with the both of them to be the cause of his best friends death, who died of a drug overdose. His friend was desperately trying to get clean after hitting rock bottom several times over, but would call people many times admitting to getting high or drunk again because ‘Zach offered me some free ________’ and would claim that anytime he would try to reject the offer, Zach would get very somber and talk about not wanting to do it alone, that he was still so sad from being broken up with, yadda yadda and would basically guilt his friend into doing something or getting smashed. He shifted the blame to one of his friends Ex girlfriends, and even got the friends folks in on it, where they tried suing her but couldn’t because they had no real evidence of it, just the things he would tell them. His last girlfriend had to run away as well because he would actually physically beat the shit out of her, and she had to move to the east coast just to escape him last I heard about her. Though I am hearing he gaslighted her into talking to him again, which is terrifying. He is OBSESSED with alpha male imagery. He will actually say, upon succeeding anything, “YEAH! Cause that is how ALPHAS do it!” right into peoples faces. He must do anything and everything he considered ‘alpha’ and will actually eat apple seeds so he may one day ‘be immune to cyanide poisoning’ for whatever reason. He went around trying to tell people a girl he slept with afterwards (a known lesbian who wont sleep with anyone who isn’t vegan, which he isn’t) that she gave him an STD, but his ‘revenge’ was she called him several days later claiming she couldn’t enjoy sex anymore because he had ‘set the bar so high’. in other words, he tried to claim sex with him was so good it would ruin sex with anyone else for her…only a few people seemed to believe him, or acted like they did. None of us know if the STD thing is true though since he has been complaining about his groin region a bit more often lately, so just beware.
When he was giving his Ex’s stuff back (though we confirmed he kept a bunch of it claiming them ‘lost’) and convinced her to let him use his car because hers was in the shop, and had his own mother and little niece in the car with him, and ended up driving down the freeway going 135mph with his mother screaming for him to slow down because they would all be killed, to which he responded ‘I don’t care if we all fucking die’ and ended up getting his family on a CPS watchlist for endangering a minor like that. We have tried multiple times to get police involved in the stuff he does, but he is great at hiding his tracks. He rarely does anything on a media that is openly saved, and uses VPNs to hide all this internet dealings. It is very hard to show the things he does. He does this intentionally to keep the police off his back. If you or someone you know is involved with this person, warn them! Even as just his ‘friend’ you are in danger of his unstable personality, which he hides behind surprising levels of charm. He is a textbook Narcissist, he will groom you between two weeks and a month, and then he will allow his instability to show once you are in his circle, and if you try to leave he will chase after you until he either drives you crazy, or you return to the fold. He did this to one of his friends who actually helped get the restraining order against him, and now he talks about how he ‘got that bitch back in line’ like he was some kind of headmaster. He has the self-given nickname ‘The Dalj’ so if you see this handle anywhere, most likely him. Please be wary of this individual. The things I have told you are simply the tip of the iceberg. He admits to some of the things he did, and will make monologuing speeches about how he is trying to better himself in an effort to charm people, but he was trained as an actor during his younger years, and he knows how to work a performance a bit too well. The fact he is still aggressively trying to find his Ex, who has made it clear he is damaging to her psyche and wanted him to stay away, and is convincing himself she ‘doesn’t know what she is saying’, is scary stuff. He frequents the Tacoma/Seattle areas.
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